Socket, thread e jFrame

Olá pessoal
Estou implementando um sistema de chat p2p hibrido.
Servidor mantem uma lista de clientes conectados.
Cliente recebe a lista de usuários do servidor e fica abrindo janelas para cada chat.
mantenho a lista dentro de uma jList dentro da classe Contatos que extende jFrame.
A ideia era ter uma Thread que ficaria escutando na porta 6689 as mensagens e com isso encaminhar para a os objetos da classe Chat correspondente ao usuario que enviou a mensagem.
Porem quando dou run() na thread a tela da classe contatos trava e não dá para fazer mais nada.
Se alguem puder ajudar agradeço pretendo deixar o codigo aqui depois para uso e consulta :smiley:

package clienteredes;

import java.io.BufferedReader;
import java.io.DataOutputStream;
import java.io.IOException;
import java.io.InputStreamReader;
import java.net.*;
import java.util.logging.Level;
import java.util.logging.Logger;
import javax.swing.JOptionPane;

/**
 *
 * @author GERMANO
 */
public class ThreadMensagens extends Thread{
ServerSocket socketRecepcao;
Contatos pai;
    public ThreadMensagens(Contatos pai) {
        
        
        this.pai = pai;
        
    }
    
    @Override  
    public void run(){
        try{
        socketRecepcao = new ServerSocket(6689);
        }
        catch(Exception ex){
            System.out.println(ex.getMessage());
            //JOptionPane.showMessageDialog(null, "Problema ao abrir porta 6689 de conexão para escutar as mensagens!\n"+ex.getMessage());
        }
            
        while( true ) {
            
            System.out.println("Thread loop");
            try{
                Thread.sleep(100);
                Socket socketConexao = socketRecepcao.accept(); 
                
                BufferedReader bufferLeitura = new BufferedReader(new InputStreamReader(socketConexao.getInputStream())); 
                DataOutputStream  trafegoSaida = new DataOutputStream(socketConexao.getOutputStream());
                InetAddress ip = socketConexao.getInetAddress();
                
                String dados= bufferLeitura.readLine();
                System.out.println("Thread p1");
                String codigo, corpo;
                codigo = (String) dados.subSequence(0, 3);
                corpo = dados.subSequence(4, (dados.length()-1)).toString();
                System.out.println(dados);
                switch(Integer.parseInt(codigo)){
                    case 400 :
                        this.pai.noticiarMensagem(corpo, ip+"");
                         trafegoSaida.writeBytes("401\n");
                    break;
                    case 600:
                    break;
                    
                }
                System.out.println("Thread p3");
            }
            catch(Exception ex){
                JOptionPane.showMessageDialog(null, "Ih deu pau aqui sabe deus o porque, mas leia a mensagem:\n"+ex.getMessage());
            }
            yield();
        }
    }
}
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package clienteredes;

import java.io.BufferedReader;
import java.io.DataOutputStream;
import java.io.InputStreamReader;
import java.net.*;
import org.w3c.dom.Document;
import org.w3c.dom.Element;

/**
 *
 * @author GERMANO
 */
public class Chat extends javax.swing.JFrame {
    StringBuffer b = new StringBuffer();
    Usuario amigo;
    /**
     * Creates new form NewJFrame
     */
    public Chat(Usuario u) {
        initComponents();
        area.setContentType("text/html");
        this.amigo = u;
        this.setTitle(u.getNome()+"@+"+u.getEndereco());
    }
    public Chat() {
        initComponents();
        area.setContentType("text/html");
        
    }
    /**
     * This method is called from within the constructor to initialize the form.
     * WARNING: Do NOT modify this code. The content of this method is always
     * regenerated by the Form Editor.
     */
    @SuppressWarnings("unchecked")
    // <editor-fold defaultstate="collapsed" desc="Generated Code">                          
    private void initComponents() {

        jScrollPane1 = new javax.swing.JScrollPane();
        area = new javax.swing.JEditorPane();
        msg = new javax.swing.JTextField();

        setDefaultCloseOperation(javax.swing.WindowConstants.EXIT_ON_CLOSE);

        jScrollPane1.setViewportView(area);

        msg.addActionListener(new java.awt.event.ActionListener() {
            public void actionPerformed(java.awt.event.ActionEvent evt) {
                msgActionPerformed(evt);
            }
        });

        javax.swing.GroupLayout layout = new javax.swing.GroupLayout(getContentPane());
        getContentPane().setLayout(layout);
        layout.setHorizontalGroup(
            layout.createParallelGroup(javax.swing.GroupLayout.Alignment.LEADING)
            .addGroup(layout.createSequentialGroup()
                .addContainerGap()
                .addGroup(layout.createParallelGroup(javax.swing.GroupLayout.Alignment.LEADING)
                    .addComponent(jScrollPane1, javax.swing.GroupLayout.DEFAULT_SIZE, 272, Short.MAX_VALUE)
                    .addComponent(msg))
                .addContainerGap())
        );
        layout.setVerticalGroup(
            layout.createParallelGroup(javax.swing.GroupLayout.Alignment.LEADING)
            .addGroup(layout.createSequentialGroup()
                .addContainerGap()
                .addComponent(jScrollPane1, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE, 195, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE)
                .addGap(34, 34, 34)
                .addComponent(msg, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE, javax.swing.GroupLayout.DEFAULT_SIZE, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE)
                .addContainerGap(40, Short.MAX_VALUE))
        );

        pack();
    }// </editor-fold>                        
    public Usuario getAmigo(){
        return this.amigo;
    }
    private void msgActionPerformed(java.awt.event.ActionEvent evt) {                                    
        // TODO add your handling code here:
        
        System.out.println(area.getText());
        
        
        
        
        try{
            Socket socketCliente = new Socket("192.168.2.12", 6689);
            DataOutputStream trafegoSaida = new DataOutputStream(socketCliente.getOutputStream());
            BufferedReader doServidor = new BufferedReader(new InputStreamReader(socketCliente.getInputStream())); 
            trafegoSaida.writeBytes("400 "+msg.getText()+ "\n");
            socketCliente.setSoTimeout(5000);
            String dados = doServidor.readLine();
            if(dados.equals("401")){
                b.append("<b>Eu:</b>"+msg.getText()+" <br>");
            }
            else{
                b.append("<em style=\"color:#808080\">Eu:"+msg.getText()+"</em> <br>");
                b.append("<b style=\"color:#D40000\">*não foi possivel enviar sua mensagem</b>");
            }
        }
        catch(Exception ex){
            b.append("<em style=\"color:#808080\">Eu:"+msg.getText()+"</em> <br>");
            b.append("<b style=\"color:#D40000\">*não foi possivel enviar sua mensagem</b> <br>");
        }
        area.setText(b.toString());
        msg.setText("");
       	
    }                                   
    
    public void novaMensagem(String m){
        b.append("<b style=\"color:#007FFF\">"+this.amigo.getNome()+":</b>"+msg.getText()+" <br>");
        area.setText(b.toString());
    }
    
    /**
     * @param args the command line arguments
     */
    public static void main(String args[]) {
        /*
         * Set the Nimbus look and feel
         */
        //<editor-fold defaultstate="collapsed" desc=" Look and feel setting code (optional) ">
        /*
         * If Nimbus (introduced in Java SE 6) is not available, stay with the
         * default look and feel. For details see
         * http://download.oracle.com/javase/tutorial/uiswing/lookandfeel/plaf.html
         */
        try {
            for (javax.swing.UIManager.LookAndFeelInfo info : javax.swing.UIManager.getInstalledLookAndFeels()) {
                if ("Nimbus".equals(info.getName())) {
                    javax.swing.UIManager.setLookAndFeel(info.getClassName());
                    break;
                }
            }
        } catch (ClassNotFoundException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Chat.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (InstantiationException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Chat.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (IllegalAccessException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Chat.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (javax.swing.UnsupportedLookAndFeelException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Chat.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        }
        //</editor-fold>

        /*
         * Create and display the form
         */
        java.awt.EventQueue.invokeLater(new Runnable() {

            public void run() {
                new Chat().setVisible(true);
            }
        });
    }
    // Variables declaration - do not modify                     
    private javax.swing.JEditorPane area;
    private javax.swing.JScrollPane jScrollPane1;
    private javax.swing.JTextField msg;
    // End of variables declaration                   
}
/*
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 * and open the template in the editor.
 */
package clienteredes;

import java.io.BufferedReader;
import java.io.DataOutputStream;
import java.io.InputStreamReader;
import java.net.InetAddress;
import java.net.ServerSocket;
import java.net.Socket;
import java.util.ArrayList;
import java.util.List;
import java.util.Vector;
import javax.swing.JOptionPane;

/**
 *
 * @author GERMANO
 */
public class Contatos extends javax.swing.JFrame  {
    List<Usuario> usuarios =new ArrayList<Usuario>();
    List<Chat> telasChat = new ArrayList<Chat>();
    ThreadMensagens gerenciadorMensagens;
    /**
     * Creates new form Contatos
     */
    public Contatos(List<Usuario> usuarios) {
        this.usuarios = usuarios;
        initComponents();
        Vector<String> nomes = new Vector<String>();
        for(Usuario u: usuarios){
        nomes.add(u.getNome());
        }
        lUsuarios.setListData(nomes);
        System.out.println("iniciou 1");
        this.setVisible(true);
        //inciaGerenciadorMsg();
        //this.run();
    }
    public Contatos(){
        initComponents();
    }
    public void inciaGerenciadorMsg(){
    
         gerenciadorMensagens = new ThreadMensagens(this);
        gerenciadorMensagens.run();
        System.out.println("iniciou 2");
    }
    /**
     * This method is called from within the constructor to initialize the form.
     * WARNING: Do NOT modify this code. The content of this method is always
     * regenerated by the Form Editor.
     */
    @SuppressWarnings("unchecked")
    // <editor-fold defaultstate="collapsed" desc="Generated Code">                          
    private void initComponents() {

        jScrollPane1 = new javax.swing.JScrollPane();
        lUsuarios = new javax.swing.JList();

        setDefaultCloseOperation(javax.swing.WindowConstants.EXIT_ON_CLOSE);

        lUsuarios.addMouseListener(new java.awt.event.MouseAdapter() {
            public void mouseClicked(java.awt.event.MouseEvent evt) {
                lUsuariosMouseClicked(evt);
            }
        });
        jScrollPane1.setViewportView(lUsuarios);

        javax.swing.GroupLayout layout = new javax.swing.GroupLayout(getContentPane());
        getContentPane().setLayout(layout);
        layout.setHorizontalGroup(
            layout.createParallelGroup(javax.swing.GroupLayout.Alignment.LEADING)
            .addComponent(jScrollPane1, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE, 239, javax.swing.GroupLayout.PREFERRED_SIZE)
        );
        layout.setVerticalGroup(
            layout.createParallelGroup(javax.swing.GroupLayout.Alignment.LEADING)
            .addComponent(jScrollPane1, javax.swing.GroupLayout.DEFAULT_SIZE, 300, Short.MAX_VALUE)
        );

        pack();
    }// </editor-fold>                        

    private void lUsuariosMouseClicked(java.awt.event.MouseEvent evt) {                                       
        // TODO add your handling code here:
        String nome = lUsuarios.getSelectedValue().toString();
        for(Usuario u: usuarios){
            if(u.getNome().equals(nome)){
                Chat c = new Chat(u);
                c.setVisible(true);
            }
        }
    }                                      
    public void setLista(){
        
    }
    public boolean noticiarMensagem(String msg, String ip){
        for(Chat c: telasChat){
            if(c.getAmigo().getIP().equals(ip)){
                c.novaMensagem(msg);
            }
        }
        
        return false;
    }
    /**
     * @param args the command line arguments
     */
    public static void main(String args[]) {
        /*
         * Set the Nimbus look and feel
         */
        //<editor-fold defaultstate="collapsed" desc=" Look and feel setting code (optional) ">
        /*
         * If Nimbus (introduced in Java SE 6) is not available, stay with the
         * default look and feel. For details see
         * http://download.oracle.com/javase/tutorial/uiswing/lookandfeel/plaf.html
         */
        try {
            for (javax.swing.UIManager.LookAndFeelInfo info : javax.swing.UIManager.getInstalledLookAndFeels()) {
                if ("Nimbus".equals(info.getName())) {
                    javax.swing.UIManager.setLookAndFeel(info.getClassName());
                    break;
                }
            }
        } catch (ClassNotFoundException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Contatos.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (InstantiationException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Contatos.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (IllegalAccessException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Contatos.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        } catch (javax.swing.UnsupportedLookAndFeelException ex) {
            java.util.logging.Logger.getLogger(Contatos.class.getName()).log(java.util.logging.Level.SEVERE, null, ex);
        }
        //</editor-fold>

        /*
         * Create and display the form
         */
        java.awt.EventQueue.invokeLater(new Runnable() {

            public void run() {
                new Contatos().setVisible(true);
            }
        });
    }
    // Variables declaration - do not modify                     
    private javax.swing.JScrollPane jScrollPane1;
    private javax.swing.JList lUsuarios;
    // End of variables declaration                   

    
}

Vlw galera, encontrei o erro.

Estava em outra classe onde eu chamava

ThreadMensagens gerenciadorMensagens = new ThreadMensagens(); gerenciadorMensagens.run();

troquei por

ThreadMensagens gerenciadorMensagens = new ThreadMensagens(); gerenciadorMensagens.start();

quem souber por que ao trocar de run() para start() a parada toda funcionou por favor me avise. :smiley:
No mais está funcionando falta apenas alguns retoques e já posto aqui o cód completo.
e se alguem souber de um lugar que eu possa colocar os arquivos e deixar p/ download pq é melhor que postar o cód escrito aqui xD pelo menos visualmente é!

Abraços